A section of the Chapter- “YOU’RE NOT MY DADDY”
When I reached my pre-teen years my mom had already been in two marriages, and with the last one being abusive, I wasn’t keen on any new man joining our family. We were getting some rehab work done to our house when two of the men working on it were more focused on my mom than the job at hand; obviously, the one which ended up being my step dad triumphed over the other. Mark was always nice, almost too nice, and childlike at times, which made him fun. However, I resisted liking him. I didn’t trust him. I kept my walls up refusing to totally accept this guy in our family. I was old enough where I could not be forced to call him Dad so I called him by his name in pleasurable defiance against my mom.
Some people in my family liked Mark, while others could not stand him. I was waiting on Mark to fuck up and hurt my mom, but he didn’t. One year passed than another and another. In that time, our relationship developed and grew. We played video games on his Sega Genesis, like Madden and PGA Golf. On one occasion he let me drive the family car. He took me fishing. He came to one of my basketball games. He also proudly attended my High School Graduation.
He always took liberty in chastising every boyfriend, and even body slammed one who got out of line. He was there for me then and is here for me now. After being an only child for most of my young life; I gained two beautiful siblings that confirmed our family unit. He would never abandon them and he didn’t abandon me. For the first time in a long time, I belonged to a family with a father present. It took a long time to develop the relationship we have now, but he was patient in earning my trust and love. Although he is not my biological dad, he accepted my stubborn ass, and loved me like I was always his. Now my kids call him “Papa.”
I’m confident he will never abandon our family; and without interruption or introduction, my kids will always know him as their granddad. He is now doing for my kids what he has always done for me and that is being a man I can always rely on. I don’t call him Mark; I proudly call him Dad.
I Want My Daddy… The Psychology of Abandonment is due to be released on AMAZON September 23rd, 2014, but it’s also available for pre-order. Don’t wait; get it now!