What does it mean to abandon? The short definition according to Merriam-Webster is, “to leave and never return to something.” The full definition is, “to withdraw protection, support, or help from.” What type of person do you have to be to have the audacity to do any of the above things to your child? Someone who is incredibly selfish, deeply troubled or has no moral compass, could commit such an act. How can one expect a self-consumed individual to see the value of giving their self to someone else? Selfish individuals have only one priority, themselves. Having a child is a tremendous sacrifice of oneself, time, and resources. Unfortunately, some are just adamantly unwilling to put forth any energy toward anyone or anything else.
Some men are deeply troubled, and are battling their own demons. They are not concerned with being responsible for others. I’m not making excuses for them, I’m just revealing why some dads act the way they do. Many of them know the importance of being a father but allow their self-pity or insecurities to consume their better judgment. I know men who feel inadequate because they may not make a lot of money. To some men, the ultimate definition of a father is to be a provider; however, a father is so much more. Being able to provide for your child is important but spending quality time and being a visible role model, I believe, is worth more than any amount of money one could receive. Unfortunately, some men would rather walk away than provide the enriching value of their time and attention to their child.
Find out more on why I think a parent abandons his or her child, and what it takes to change their ways. Go to Amazon.com and get your copy of my book ‘I Want My Daddy…The Psychology of Abandonment’ today! Or come see me at the Buzz Annual Book Fair, Saturday, March 28th, 2015 from 10am-5pm at Xavier University’s Cintas Center.